will she always feed this much?

[chooky]

I know she won't want 'booby time' when she's 18 but it feels like she'll never stop feeding!

I don't mind feeding at all... its a lovely gift that gives us a special bond. I'm getting a little worried that 4-7 feeds a day is too much for me to handle with a new bubba if she doesn't slow down by the time #2 comes along (due 29th April 10)

Yes, 6 months is a long time but I know it will be here before I know it. DD1 will be 2 years old - will she still be feeding so much by then??

I've tried cutting feeds but it only makes her want it more!

[Rinelle]

Ezri fed really fequently (4-7 times a day was nothing most days, LOL) until around two, then she really slowed down. I also found that cutting feeds just made it worse, so just resigned myself to it. I didn't have another one on the way though, so I didn't have that to worry about.

[cherish]

no advice from me.. except that it will work itself out!! hopefully another mumma will come along who has some wise words to share!

[chooky]

I think I am starting to just submit to it... not in a negative way... just trying to embrace it and trust that the "universe" will provide (either the strength to feed two boobie monsters or for Z to naturally reduce her need for boob)

[michelle_j_r]

do what works for you. Maybe speak to other mums here that tandem fed and make sure you have support when bub #2 comes so you will have the energy to feed two! hugs and congrats.

[Rinelle]

The funny thing is, I found when I just dropped it and went with the flow, she fed a lot less.

I'm sure you will manage it, whatever happens. A lot of people find that older kids feed a lot less as your milk changes/becomes less as the pregnancy progresses, so I think going with the flow for now is the easiest option.

[MalleyFlalm]

I always breast feed, and fed my daughter for 12 months right up until I got pregnant with this one. I will have to go on a medication straight after birth which is contraindicated with breast feeding. I feel so guilty already and I am worried what people will think a bit too much. I am really upset but dont really have any other choice. any ideas??

[mamma]

chooky, mothering your nursing toddler is a great book that i think youd find reassuring. and adventures in tandem feeing another good book.

malleyflalm, why do you need to go on meds after the birth of your new baby? can't you tell them how iompt bf is to you? could you start expressing now and build up a store in our freezer? are there locakl mums who could donate ebm for your wee bub if jere is no other options re the meds?

[michelle_j_r]

malleyflalm, are the meds short term? if so you could pump and dump until you are able to feed. but i would also look into a milk bank if it is available.

[Bron]

brain development slows at age 2 (and i reckon they know this, which is why they ramp up the night feeds age 18m to 2 yrs) so you may find she does slow down.

of course, having all that lovely newborn milk may change things :) but you won't suffer engorgement!! :D (or if you do, you'll have a willing helper remove it)

[chooky]

just an update.... still feeding heaps (prolly more now) and there is less than 4 months till baby is due. I've totally surrendered - particularly considering brain development. My boobs are a bit tender but not sore which is good!

I am ok with spending the first few months sitting on the couch feeding two babies!

[Ethereal]

You sound in a better place with it now, hon :heart.

Our story: I had loads of ups & downs with Jac BF-ing and the pregnancy then Issy. Some days it was ok, other days I was angry & resentful. Eventually, Jac was BF for 3.5yrs (which I never thought I could manage) and would still BF some days if I let him. I think of it with nothing less than awe that I was feeding him just hours before Issy's birth yet still, there at the birth was colostrum for our new born. Amazing! He was feeding the same day she was born, I just fed him after her yk? We started with a side each (just kinda worked out that way) and if I was extra full if she had a longer sleep or something he was there for instant relief - very handy :laugh.

[shaestar]

There is 20 months between my youngest 2 and I was really worried about how it would work because Willow was still pretty keen to feed heaps. In the last 4 weeks my supply dwindled heaps-and so did her interest! She is still feeding but no where near as often

[Bee]

Great decision to just surrender to it, I found that to be the very best thing to do as well. I am currently nursing 3! :) My baby is a boobaholic, my preschooler is as well... not QUITE so much as the baby, and my school boy has booby 1 - 2 times a day :)

[chooky]

wow... feeding 3! I dont know what I'm worried about - thats amazingly awesome :)

[Bee]

Thanks :)

I remember when Bron was feeding I don't know how many, and she gave me the inspiration to just let my children wean themselves, however many I ended up feeding! :)

[Bron]

:) niccola fed till she was 9 (so come the end of the month, she'll have been weaned for a year). justin weaned when i was pregnant with josie, he was about 4.5. xanthia weaned around her 6th birthday, so for the first time in 8.5 years, i'm singleton feeding :)

[Bee]

Wow Bron. I'm really awed by that :)

[Bron]

don't be ;) i just got to sit down a lot 'honey, can you stir dinner? i can't get up right now' :rofl

[Bee]

tee hee.